Quote sally cinnamon="sally cinnamon"Ha this is a myth.
I have to say the 'permanent singletons' that I know, are
a) invariably male
b) never look for a partner in the slightest
and surprisingly enough, women don't come and seek them out either. They just quietly get on with their own lives and hobbies and their relationship status or love life becomes the thing you don't mention.
I think it might work for women. Even an average looking woman will attract a few suitors without having to look particularly hard. If you have an average looking single woman, and place her in a context where she will spend time with a single man (eg through work, social friendship group etc) there is a fair chance that the single man will consider her as an option.
But it doesn't really work the other way round, I think if a man is single for a certain length of time and he wants to find a partner, there is much more of a requirement for him to do something pro active and make an effort. "Not looking" for a male avoids the thing of being desperate, but means he will go years and years without female attention.'"
It worked for me
I used to go out every week as a single woman, hoping that night would be the night I meet "the one" and it never happened. Most men just wanted a one night stand (which I was not interested in) and once they found this out the would "disappear" to another pub.
On the other hand, I started a new job and it was at the beginning of my health problems, so I was concentrating on keeping my job whilst getting progressivly worse, when I met the future Mr HWS at work. I was not looking for anyone at the time, paying my mortgage and trying to get out of bed to work in the morning was consuming all my energy.
All I will say to the OP is don't come across as too desperate, a woman can spot a mile off if a man is genuinely interested in her or just where he will spend the night
I used to go out every week as a single woman, hoping that night would be the night I meet "the one" and it never happened. Most men just wanted a one night stand (which I was not interested in) and once they found this out the would "disappear" to another pub.
